Breakups: Get Rid of the Good Old Memories of your Ex-Lover.

 

Moving on and getting over the memories of your ex is actually a big deal for most people. Breakups sometime hurt, most especially if the relationship ends on bad terms and you still love your ex but due to some reasons, you just have to let go.

Memories of good time with ex can drain you physically and emotionally, causing depression which can results in poor performance in your school, work or whatever you might be doing. So, letting go and getting rid of such memories will actually be the best you can do for yourself.

 

Ø Accepting the fact that the things you share with your ex is no more is the first step to healing. Some people after breakup still holds on to the believe that they can patch up things with their partner and in such case they try to force themselves on their ex-partner, stalk them, always wanting to be around them and still holding on to the memories of the good times they both share because in a way,  they feel those memories brings the assurance that things are going to get back to usual and eventually,patch things up, but as time goes on and the chances of being together with their ex is low, they get depressed!

Therefore, the first step after a breakup is acceptance. Accept that it’s over. Be truthful to yourself and keep your heads up. Do not think of a possible link up again!

 

Ø Distance yourself from your partner and cut off all possible connections. The truth is if you get to see your ex almost every time after breakup, it will be difficult to get rid of your memories together. Say ‘NO’ when he/she ask for a possible day out or walk. It will end up hurting you the more and definitely bad for you.

 

Ø Stay away from social media for a while. It’s on social media you might be reminded of your failed relationship. For example, if a friend who is not aware of your breakup ask after your partner, this will be like opening a fresh wound again after dressing. Also, Some quality time you shared together put in pictures and previously shared on social media reminds you of the whole thing again. So stay away as much as you can and return only when you are strong enough to face the humiliations maybe or some kinds of opinions from friends online.

 

Ø Give yourself a break and travel for some time if possible. Do this to get rid of the memories of the place you spend quality time together with your ex. If you still stay around the place your ex resides, try as much as possible to cut of connection.

 

Ø Find a hobby. Discover yourself and find yourself a new love. That part of your heart that was once occupied by you ex, now you need to feel it with something else. Find love in the things you do and make yourself busy.

 

Ø Set up a goal for your future and be careful not to include your ex in it. I'am very sure you know why you mustn't include your ex in this. 

 

Ø Use your brain. If you are a guy that spends a lot on your girl, this is the time for you to save. Yes, save! Those money for manicure and pedicure won’t be there anymore. Save your money and invest in a business! You can also spend this money on yourself. Look good cos you mustn’t die because of an heartbreak or a painful breakup. Let your ex knows you can actually leave without him/her but stay out of competition. Just do your thing your way.

 

Ø Don’t stay indoors for too long. Spend more time with friends but avoid your ex’s friends who are also your friends because getting in touch with such friends can actually open your healing wounds.

 

Ø Finally, make use of lessons learnt from your previous relationship to improve the lives of couples around you and in your next relationship. After a breakup, you would have discover the reasons for it, and the possible red lights. Share your thoughts with other people and let them know how you feel.

 

 

Did your heart just got broken, or you are just recovering from a painful breakup? The above tips should help you get back on your feet and keep you moving on. Share your opinion on this, by commenting below, thanks.